The Second Ramble - Let's talk about love

haha hiii i'm back. i am gonna try to make an effort to be FAITHFUL (lol) to this blog. yeah going to try to pen down my thoughts and discuss some topics once in a few days. haha! forgive me if you think this is crass, feel free to leave then ;P

okay let's talk about love #1 - ladies.
just got back from bballing =)) wow i bury quite a few hooks in the game!! i shock even myself. haha yeah my first triumph in a 6 - 6 game in a long long time. lol gonna keep up my tough d.
yes basketball is my love. one of many. but let's discuss a little of more tangible stuff like ladies.

i'm going to confess my eyes are not the most loyal creature. they are like honey bees which flit around spontaneously from one eye candy to another. and naturally during my course of "honey bee working" i ahve picked out a few really great ladies who have umm melted my heart? i mean i am not just a looks-kind of guy. and i believe most people aren't. heart. character. all those..

yeah but there is really this lady. not gonna name who.. of course. the girl's privacy is of top priority. that's always my policy. haha (learn this from GREAT TEACHER ONIZUKA) she's pretty and all (some friends would say she look normal) but yeah maybe its because of the person that i saw for who she is, that i think she is really wonderful. she's herself. the true her. lol lest i break into a ramble (againn?!), let me continue. she's someone i could really relate to. but sad to say, i don't think i'll keep up any continuation. its probably just some invisible difference and tight schedules but.. sigh.. she's a friend (must get this clear first not anything special else yet lol)

okay. so let's talk about love. enough about sharing personal details.
this buddy was encouraging me saying. take it slowly. give the friendship time to simmer and blossom into a relationship. others have been poking in over recent periods saying "you can de la" haha. i appreciate it greatly. but i would withdraw all the same. somehow it doesn't feel right. maybe its the insecurity of "rejection", "that things won't work out" and most importantly "that i would lose a great friend that she is". already i hate the way great friendships go to waste when this tingly "crush" feeling pops up at the peak of great exchange. (most people do. already i have seen some friends suffer the same fate) Don't get me wrong, she's still the wonderful girl i envision and believe but somehow there's just a nagging feeling about incompatible lifestyles and feelings. conversation and open talk i think and hope will still be preserved after this encounter. in fact, i feel much lighter, that despite anything, i had made an effort, and hopefully a great friendship is still in the docks.

the list on the agenda that i direly wanted to share and bring up is regarding this: i hate the way perhaps i'm letting a great chance at a beautiful relationship slip by. and i wonder in life, sometimes how many actual chances do you have "for slipping by". ladies have spent eternities looking for Mr. Right and end up being old spinisters. men have cast nets to rake in a wonderful 10/10 lady and end up being termed "more nicely" diamond-studded bachelors. but the point is, a mischance and an eternity and lifetime of regret. we are riding on the wave of youth and vigour now, but crucially i have heard many friends or read blogs detailing this. their darkest fear. the notion of just grabbing someone to spend your life with for life jsut because you don't want to be single, is just blahh plain desperation.

with this i question,
how many mischances do we really have?
how many people do actually feel this as their darkest fear? of desolation and singlehood for life.
how can we measure a gem, the right one?

share about your mischances as well, i'm all ears and hopefully there are still more chances.
to find someone you can relate, talk to, bicker with and come out stronger with is tough.

with that' i leave it at this a high note of muzzling questions that i hope would garner huge responses.

let's talk about love #2
Parental Love.
i had a mild discussion with my mom today about "obedience - meeting parents' expectations - love". usually our discussion always end up in high-octane tiffing heat. haha.
yes. i believe most parents may have this conception.

"you are eating my rice."
"i'm sacrificing so much for you, it makes it only logical that you meet my expectations and wants."
"i require you to abide by this dress sense. to speak this way. to be OBEDIENT!"
"it's all for your own good, ah boy/girl!"

somehow, much as i want to be Confucian-blessed filial, the above are not what i generally agree upon. for one, i don't believe meeting enforced expectations reflect mutual love. rather i believe its the common understanding of what the child loves/ pursue and how the parents either display support/ give the kid free room to experiment even though they disapprove, that will make operation and mutual love more reasonable.
of course i'm not saying that, we should like children try vices like wanton gambling and abusive alcoholic drinking or even chain-smoking habitually.
please we are living in a 21st century, your child is not your playdoll. and you certainly are and should not be a ventriloquist.
liberation rights and freedom is a topic for another day. but being hell-bent on enforcement and kicking up a fit when your child is not meeting your expectations is an utter depravement of not just freedom but the choice to choose and a folly. i believe everyone have their own development path and they would forge a blazing route. that's a staunch belief of mine. i understand parents' concern in helping their kids forge an easier and more sheltered path. its no wonder many can't stand up to criticism and manipulate the school's weakness in not being able deliver crippling comments and blows by doing more audacious "climbing over the head of school" acts.
all in all, parental love is sacredly noble. and i salute every parent for that.
but reprociating love, does not just come in meeting your high expectations.

What do you think?

and i want to learn LOCKING!! omg